This is an awesome speech

'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says

This is a prepared text of the Commencement address delivered by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.



They say it's the little things that matter in a relationship and i really wonder what defines little in this case for my friend Delicate Stems a trip to Cabo San Lucas might be the little thing while for The student a shopping spree to milan might be that little thing. You see all these are not little in my case, mine might be sitting in the car and holding hands for 3 hours (Do people still do that? Have they ever done that anyway?). So when someone says it is those little things that matter what do they mean? Little in whose eyes? is it in the one that is doing them or the one they are doing for? I once overheard a conversation between two women where one was complaining about the husband not taking her to dinner on valentines but instead cooked at home and set up their sitting room as a restaurant and served her the whole evening. Her friend then told her it would have been perfect for her instead of the boat cruise her and her hubby went for.... I thought these women should trade lives!!!!!!!!!!!
So now that the little things matter does that mean that the big ones don't?
In my case little or big it doesn't matter, if someone comes out of their way to do the big things why dwell on wanting the little ones? Does it matter anyway if they are big or little? The thought is what counts and the fact that someone thought of you and did even the smallest thing like calling to check on you we should be grateful.

Lesson for today every thought counts no matter how big/little the gesture might be we should be thankful....



I read this somewhere and thought i could share. To the owner of the original post please note that i am not copying your work so no suing here


When I was preparing to get married, I started getting all sorts of advice especially at bridal showers and things like that from family and friends. But one of the most interesting 'lessons' came from a woman I met for the first time, just a few weeks before the big day.

She said, Honey, whatever you do, don't ever let yourself become a "make-do woman", I had no idea what she meant, but, of course, she was about to explain.
She continued, 'men' don't deny themselves anything. Whatever they want to buy, they buy. Whatever they want to do, they do. Meanwhile, there is the wife, making do with her hair not being done, gaining weight not taking care of our health, her clothes from yesteryear, her nails in need, never had a pedicure, scraping the bottom of her tube of lipstick! Oh, I could go on and on with how ' we' make do.

And why? Because the car needs fixing, this bill is behind, we have to use our time to take care of this, or take care of that; we're saving for this, working, cooking, cleaning, raising, etc. She warned me to never become a make-do woman, because she says if you start, it is hard to stop and one could easily find themselves making-do for the rest of their lives.
I vowed it would never happen to me. I didn't think much more of the conversation until one day, I began to take notice, she was right.
Men are a lot better at being good to themselves. Some call it being selfish, there has to be another word for it. Tell me if you know.

Whatever you call it. It does have its place. When they want to play ball, or golf, or fish, they go! When they want to buy clothes, or equipment, or video games, or whatever their 'thing' is, they buy! Have you ever tried to stop one? Has anyone
ever been able to stop one? Let me know! When I look around, I see a whole heap of make-do women, married or not, with or without children, they are all over the place!

I have decided that I am going to make my best effort to become a 'make-time' woman! I will make the time to do what I need
to do to be good to myself, whether that's a trip to the salon, or the gym or the mall. This time I'm going to take a lesson from the guys!

All right ladies, single and married... Let's NOT be 'MAKE-DO' Women!
Let's LOVE OURSELVES and ENCOURAGE each other! Pass it on!
It's something we could all appreciate

It is time for a change , I am not saying men shouldn't take time for themselves, I am saying we are stupid for not taking more time for ourselves !!!
Don't let yesterday take up too much of today!



I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.

And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away

I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth



Just like HK i have this song playing in my head like a problem Lady antebellum Rocks

Picture perfect memories
Scattered all around the floor
Reaching for the phone 'cause
I can't fight it anymore

And I wonder if I
Ever cross your mind
For me it happens all the time

It's a quarter after one
I'm all alone
And I need you now
Said I wouldn't call
But I've lost all control
And I need you now

And I don't know how
I can do without
I just need you now

Another shot of whiskey
Can't stop looking at the door
Wishing you'd come sweeping
In the way you did before

And I wonder if I
Ever cross your mind
For me it happens all the time

It's a quarter after one
I'm a little drunk
And I need you now
Said I wouldn't call
But I've lost all control
And I need you now

And I don't know how
I can do without
I just need you now

Whoa, whoa
Guess I'd rather hurt
Than feel nothing at all

It's a quarter after one
I'm all alone
And I need you now
And I said I wouldn't call
But I'm a little drunk
And I need you now

And I don't know how
I can do without
I just need you now
I just need you now

Oh baby, I need you now



Random day

it's funny how people are complaining about the financial crisis in Uganda and yet most of us spare some money to drink over priced coffee and very dry cake. I am not here by choice it's just that i am waiting for my mechanic to bring my DMC which he has been working on since morning. So tired of this car i am about to launch meetings for buying a new one. I would rather be home watching the fights between my kids but what to do! Anyway back to this coffee place, on a normal day (not so busy) you will find that the only seat available is that next to nusty oh i see you don't know that guy niether do i just thought i would use that! It's not bad sharing with nusty a table problem is he will ask if he can taste your americano, your cake etc disgusting. The groups of people here are rather snobby. There is this group that comprises of a lawyer, an accountant, an engineer, and the nkuba deal (deal beaters) these guys have become permanent tennants here in that the waitresses don't have to take thier orders they just know what they want. This group has specialized in suits and sharp shoes! What's with he sharp shoes anyway? If i could i would take a picture and upload it but mehn don't want to be thrown out. You must be wondering where the snobbing comes in it won't it's just that i know half of them and noone is attempting to come and say hello. Before you tell me to go say hello first listen out, i am the queen of shy so catch me doing that. The thoughts that go through my mind are like; what if you trip and fall you idiot?, they will all laugh. So i sit comfortably at my table and do the smile and wave boys smile and wave. Btw this post has no interesting event to talk about its just that i look silly sitted alone counting the cars passing. So to save myself from looking bad i decided to pull out my not so cool iphone 4 oh sorry ipad 5 to post something. Now where is this mechanic somebody save me from this place. I dont want to venture into window shopping it usually ends up into a major splurge and seeing that my hubby trusted me with his ATM card i might get tempted to steal from him. Is it possible that a wife can steal from her husband and viceverser i thought when you get married you become one, what is yours is mine so if you take from your spouse's wallet/account you are only getting part of what's yours. Okay i gotta look for this mechanic thanks for lounging with me. Thank God for phones rather pads and the internet how would i have killed these minutes.

Ps. Dont mind about spelling misakes i didnt mind making them



Yesterday I had lunch with 2 friends of mine and my sister; I will give these people pseudo names so that I don’t confuse the characters. So it was Marley, Tommy, my sister Jo and 1. We started off the lunch with talking about Marley’s upcoming wedding and the stuff that needs to be done in order for her to have her dream wedding. Marley is not the kind, who while still a child had a scrap book of her dream wedding. She is not gangster but rather the kind that prefers simplicity at all times not making a wedding an exception. Hesi and I have been through the whole talk of letting loose on the simplicity just for that one day but we have terribly failed as the dress she is insisting on is weeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllll I can’t begin to explain. Well as the conversation went on Marley turns and tells Tommy that if her hubby-to-be ever annoys her, she will deny him sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh My World you should have seen the reaction from all three of us who are btw married. This is what followed next
Tommy: Never ever use Sex as a weapon while having a fight with your spouse. Denying him sex opens another can of worms. Why am I saying this, he will thereafter go on strike and when you attempt to get some he will not be up for it and when you complain he will remind you want you did the last time and will calmly tell you it scarred him (MEN HAVE DRAMA).
Jo: Also if for example the reason why you are using sex as a weapon is because he came home late, while he is out again and then realizes it is already “Late” in your world, he will assume that there is no getting some at home so he will try to look at the possibilities of getting some before he goes home to your long pulled mouth and you don’t want that to happen.
Marley was confused she was wondering if you are mad at someone how is he supposed to know that you are mad when you are busy moaning and making passionate love. At that point Tommy told her after it is done, turn and face the wall in a fetus position and there he will think he has raped you and feel bad about the whole ordeal. That is when I came up and I asked Tommy what if he sleeps off and does not notice. He then said you forget about your anger for that day and wait for the next little mistake.
I then quickly told Marley that while a man can say no he is not in the mood, for the woman it should not come out of your mouth. This is the part where Men have more rights than us. I seriously don’t get it why should a man calmly think you are going to accept his “I am too tired” speech when they don’t want to hear it from us? We are all human and in most cases the woman will have had a more hectic day which involves 8 -5 job, picking kids from school, putting Dinner on the table, Doing home work with the kids and then there after find him waiting to break your already broken back. Marley was horrified by this. I was not speaking from experience because I have never been too tired for a calorie burning activity but I have heard people talk about it. I think it is rather selfish for the men to deny their spouses sex all in the name of being tired and yet they don’t want to hear it from us poor women.
My take on this is there are better ways to fight than to deny the other sex surely we are not kids if you want to punish him Silent treatment is the best. And to the men you need to adjust if you can be tired and so can we.



I was having a Chat with Pote on Saturday at a wedding (Which is part of the post) and he mentioned he will be posting everyday. I didn't make such a statement because i know i am very lazy at writing and that is probably why my project has only a title 3 months after being sent to write a proposal. Anyway here is my attempt at coming up with a post today.
I am certain that all of us here have experienced some lousy crap that service providers hired at a function give us. It's funny how people pay so much money to these guys and at the end of the day they give you bitter tomatoes. I was at a wedding on Saturday and I experienced/noticed some of these awful things. I will not mention the inconvenience at the gate all in the name of security check points, al shabab will knock munyonyo out by missiles fired from one of those islands opposite them. This security thing is really getting to me, there is no real checking done, just some smelly guy opening the door doing a peeping tom thing and then slams the door to a point that it slightly moves in towards the passenger seat. Then don’t get me started on open the boot blah blah blah the last time I did my children’s cereal went missing from the groceries I had just got. Oh the wedding as I walked up the steps that lead to the Ball room, I noticed that the area where the guests are supposed to be served from the buffet was transformed into some kind of market place. My first thought was did the couple meet at a market and now have transformed their first day into the theme of the wedding?????????? Hmmmm Interesting, but could they really have asked for this?????? I guess not. The venue had earlier been used as some kind of exhibition area and therefore munyonyo felt it necessary for the guests to perhaps get involved in this market thing before going into the hall for the paaaarrrttyyy. They didn’t confirm this I just made it up otherwise what would be the reason for having a shabby buffet area. I get into the hall find a comfy seat and wait for the other guests to fall in (this fall in thing I have never understood). A few minutes later the other guests take their seats and the waiters and waitresses start going on about their business. A waitress called Olivia was assigned to our general area to take care of our business, and she really did despite the fact that by the end of the night, she had baptized me SANDRA!!!!!!!!!!!!! No offense to any Sandras out there but…………………………………. Oh this is supposed to be about the lousy stuff service providers do, so anyway after the speeches, dinner, cake, Father and Bride dance the after party begun and as soon as it did, the decorator started collecting all her belongings ie table runners, chair tie backs, and all those “not sophisticated” things they feel the need to pack up before the function officially ends. Her defense for this action is people steal the sophisticated items, Do we? I personally have never carried anything from a wedding except for the party favors so for me that was a lousy excuse. Then we got up to dance and guess what the munyonyo crew decided to do!!!!!!!!! Yep stack up their chairs, dismantle the tables basically clearing the hall. Please note that the bride and groom were still around greeting friends and pakachining. WHO DOES THAT? Why do these people feel they have a right to close your party??????? Are they trying to tell us that they are tired we should pack up and go? They get paid so they shouldn’t be tired. I think that was the most annoying thing that evening, right about that time my Mr and I decided to leave…… Ooooh no I didn’t mention I had come with him????? I think it’s a woman thing seeing that the bride’s speech was about everyone but her husband and when she was done he turn and was like “you forgot to say anything about me”. So anyway on our way home we find a road block where police was doing breathalyzer tests on drivers….. Seeing that I am posting this tell you that I either passed it, didn’t take it or pretended that I was going to park and instead zoomed off.
Anyway on a more serious note someone needs to come up and give all the service providers a run for their coins. People pay for these services and at the end of the day it is not customer is king instead it’s Customer is slave you do what the service provider wants and even plead with him/her to play music for an extra 30minutes and yet you had paid for music the whole night………………



I love cooking!!!!!!!!!!!! For most people who know me or have been to my place, have seen different recipes hanging on the walls of my kitchen. And here below is a recipe that i would like to share with you.



- Whole Chicken cut into pieces (Preferably Non muganda/munyankole/acholi Chicken)
- Thyme
- Rosemary
- 4 tablespoons of vegetable cooking oil (For a healthier meal please use Olive oil and for a more fatty meal butter can do)
- 1 Clove of garlic
- 1 Onion
- 2 Tablespoons of Tomato paste
- 1 Tin of Slice Tomatoes (these should be peeled. If you don't want to spend on the tin of tomatoes, you can grate 4 ripe ones)
- Salt and Pepper to your taste.

Directions on how to cook

1. Wash the chicken and put it on paper towels to soak out the water
2. Put the oil/butter in the pan, add the chicken and fry it until it starts browning
3. Add the onions, when they are tender enough, add the garlic and let it fry for 1 minute
4. Add Rosemary and Thyme to your taste let it cook for at least 3 minutes
5. Add the Sliced Tomatoes Stir for 5 minutes.
6. Add the tomato paste and continue to stir for 5 minutes
7. Add salt and pepper to taste

For those of you who have working ovens, place a lid on the pan and place it in the oven at 180

For those without Oven, leave it on the burner for as long as you want to simmer (PS please leave little heat to avoid burning)

This can be served with Steamed rice, Boiled potatoes btw anything can do.

For those of you that will try it out Please let me know how it went and if you liked what it tastes like. Also please note that i have not added in water so don't do so.
All the above ingredients can be got from your nearest supermarket at affordable prices.

Enjoy the cooking i will be back with some more Food and Drinks



The Bourne ultimatum: Read the email

From: Carolyn Bourne

To: Heidi Withers

Subject: Your lack of manners

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.
My Reply; Well i am an adult and i should be able to point out what i do and do not eat

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.
My Reply: Shya why shouldn't i tell you that i am still hungry? Do you want me sneaking around the house in the middle of the night looking for something to eat?

You do not start before everyone else.
My Reply: Yes you are right next time i will

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.
My Reply: Are you kidding me? How mean and greedy can you be? What if you don't offer?

When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.
My Reply: You must be joking? If you guys are some kind of night dancers i aint gonna be recruited in your shit. I thought i was supposed to be on holiday give me a freakin break Old lady

Your should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.
My reply: Yeah i know that sucks same way you belittle me every time your friends are over and then after say it was a joke? That's what's up

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity-style behavior.
My Reply: Look who is talking who just sent the other an email it clearly shows that you still want me to listen to your old people talk.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.
My Reply: Okay fine Mum-to-be you can marry your lazy arse son, after all his thing is as small as a toothpick. Just doing all you motherfuckers a favor. Oh PS we actually have the money for the wedding, my parents were not sure if they should spend it on this one seeing that your son is not the it in the sac they definitely knew i would leave him and marry Mr. Endowed Aka i forget that Nigerian guy.

One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.
My Reply: I Pity him too getting laid by your mother is some sick shit.... BITCH

But seriously i do hope Heidi does not marry this guy, a mother-in-law like this one is not what she wants.



Oh My world do you really want to know? Okay here goes

Maroon Random Bag

My mum brought it for me to buy it I don’t remember making that payment

Toshiba Laptop
Because I am doing some research for my dissertation, I have to carry this baby everywhere. Never know when i might land on some critical Literature that I might need for the paper

Money Purse/Clutch bag
This wallet is big enough to be used as a clutch just in case I have to attend a cocktail after work and don’t want to carry the big bag

Manicure set
I just hate a bad looking nail

I phone
Just to be able to go on the internet anytime I want to

Dietary Supplements
I can’t be bothered by the gym when I can get myself apple cider vinegar tablets

Nokia Phone
Got it from my husband it’s a spare phone I use when I run out of Battery

Victoria’s Secret Lip gloss
Chapped lips just look so wrong

Pink Puff holder
Sometimes it’s too hot and my long lustrous hair gets uncomfortable so I hold it in a puff

I hate it when something (Meat) gets stuck in my teeth and I can’t find something to remove it. Always move with these or floss

Oh did I mention my looooooooooong lustrous Hair?

I am Blind these babies help me a lot especially when I have to read, or drive at night

Hand Lotion
I prefer to keep my hands soft and moisten. This one I sometimes use on my feet when they pale out on me.

Blue Business Cardholder
Just to pose that I have one. Please note that where I work business cards are not a big deal coz……. Oh well who is interested in that boring story

Flower-like highlighter.
Don’t know why I actually carry it around

Everyone moves with that. Right?!

Chewing gum
Proper Addict

The Camera
For Kodak Moments



It's me again and i ask you to teach me

How to Love,

How to forgive,

How to trust


How not to give up easily

How to seek you more and more

and above all teach me how to relate to people.



For a long time i have been trying to write something about Autism but i just can't seem to put the whole thing together. One might wonder why i am so interested, well it's obvious i have a child with the condition. This information is not for only families with autistic children but for everyone because you never know when you might get the opportunity of meeting one.

This is very little but if you are interested Google can help you understand.

Autism now affects 1 in 110 children and 1 in 70 boys

Autism prevalence figures are growing

More children will be diagnosed with autism this year than with AIDS, diabetes & cancer combined

Autism is the fastest-growing serious developmental disability in the U.S.

Autism costs the nation over $35 billion per year, a figure expected to significantly increase in the next decade

Autism receives less than 5% of the research funding of many less prevalent childhood diseases

Boys are four times more likely than girls to have autism

There is no medical detection or cure for autism



Dont we all have these? Mine will not be long and unrealistic so here we go

Three to 100 pairs of these wouldn't hurt

Actually that is all................ Too crazy about Christian Louboutin



I hope all is well with you up in the heavenly Palace. I have heard that it is a very nice place and i sure do hope that when i come over you will show me around. Kati i don't want to sound like i am complaining but here goes.

1. Why do i feel the way i do right about now? Rejected, constantly looked down on, not cared for and so many other things. I know that everything happens for a reason and that there are lessons to learn from every experience. But does is have to hurt this much for me to learn? What is there to learn? This feeling (Having a gu mango) is not cool at all. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I want to be happy all the time, not worry about what is going to happen next, not worry about the next text message i receive, the next phone call. I need assurance God. If it's going to hurt let it come now instead of the stages.

2. Thank you lord for the gift of children i love them they are my everything, my world. I believe in you for that miracle that we once discussed in my prayer. Please don't read me wrong when i constantly pray about it, i am not trying to remind you. I am letting you know that i am waiting and your timing will be perfect.

3. The evil deeds in this country are becoming quite too much my Father, people are sacrificing the little ones to gods that are not going to do anything for them. Too much hate, envy, jealous eeeish this is sending so many people to witch doctors to harm those they feel that way for. Lord calm them show them your righteousness. Let no evil plans/traps come to pass. Protect your people and lead those astray back to your loving arms.

4. Thank you for the gift of love, but teach us lord how to love our children, spouses, colleagues, family members, friends, even those that don't wish us well. Lord people have taken on the vow to remain faithful to one another but they didn't live up to it. Please give them that love the one they had for each other when they were running to church to make it official, give them fulfillment in their marriages, families and homes.

5. Father we leave our homes to go to work and trust strangers to take care of our children. Lord i believe that you are watching over them that you will protect our children, give love and mercy to the people taking care of them so that our children are safe.

6. Oh i just want to thank you for the blessings, love and forgiveness of Sin!

Yours truly



That's what I am doing tomorrow! Yey me congs congs, okay excitment gone now back to whining. Must I buy a dress for grad? For all I know one wears that ugly black gown that covers not only this African woman's curves but also the cute dress you probably spent a liver on. So I ain't buying new dresses for grad and it's not a phd just a post grad diploma. Yeah kinda have to go through that before you get the masters. Hmmm and you pay for each separately people really know how to make money. Aha come on people no parties here, then what will happen once that phd comes through? Greedy no no no party (truth is no money for the party!). Did you guys know that the pound is now close to 4000 seriously are we ever going to afford anything. Besides that my bff is coming home soon with so many pounds can't wait to buy tv chicken and ofwono fanta! Nice weekend people.



Funny how this whole week I have been promising myself to post something here and never got to doing it. Can't even remember what I wanted to rant about. Let us start with lent, I was meant to fast this march but wapi I failed so when lent came I said to myself I should fast meat, alcohol and going out.I have since eaten two pieces of meat some fish fingers ad a piece of chicken. Who am I kiddin I can't fast some foods and eat others I would rather do it the Moslem way. Oh now I remember what I wanted to say. I have never eaten pork all my life and guess what last Saturday at a friend's house after one two or 7 whiskey I randomly picked up a piece and started chewing I must say it was a very good taste I don't want to get used to(yeah a moment on my lips). I have been trying to copy some bloggers like mbabazi and stylifiq to Dyi but the kids will not let me. One of these days I will just lock myself up in a room and try to be productive and creative. Gosh are we still in Uganda? This heat its like as if we are in Dubai or some desert place jeez! The mosquitoes are not helping the situation. It is becoming harder to have midnight activities the heat is just too much. Oh my silly car decided to retire at 2am last weekend while on my way home from progs and guess who found me stranded one of my husband's friends they must be having him for that surely he will understad and buy me new one. Staying in this weekend trying to avoid the fight with Apr9 he ehe he ehe fab weekend guys.



So I am at this bar and some chic is over staring then I ask her what's up and all she wants to do is fight! Hmmm



Congs to Mr. Yoweri Kaguta Museveni. Now back to business people we can't all win now can we? In other news what is happening to the Arab world? Is someone inciting this whole unrest in these countries?



Been in my house since Thursday (okay that is a lie) and no results no kavuyo! Time to get out and find some mojitos. Yeah I know you are judging me it's midday and I am talking about a mojito. A drink is a drink regardless of the time you take it. It will still knock you down, so that darkness pretense I am not going to subscribe to. Apparently the Indians who own a mini supermarket in my home area packed all the stuff they had in the ka shop on Thursday night and went with it home in fear of riots..... Mmtttssscchh. Right now I am watching my daughter try to feed herself yorghurt not sure if it is sweeter when it goes through her hair but I gotta let her be. Apparently she is trying to be independent, at 10months? You gotta be kidding me. Uh too hungry gotta get myself something light (chapati and chicken) to eat as I wait for lunch



After too much thought I quit facebook. For an addict like me it's progress going 5 days without going to that page..... After so much thought I have decided to go to the polling station and cast my vote. It's just the right and responsible thing to do.... After not so much thought I have decided to make things matter family matters, friends matter, work gives me a comfortable life so it does matter. After so much thought I have decided it's time to register that company I need the hustle in my life, to look for deals, I want to look like a busy bee. I can't say vote wisely coz my wise might not be your wise so all I say is vote.



"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It's our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves: who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous^
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of the universe.
Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There is nothing enlightening about shrinking,
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are born to make manifest the glory of the universe
that is within us. It's not just in some of us: it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
And as we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others."



This is my house my home

Have you ever sat back and wondered if God actually exists? A series of things happen in your life and you wonder why he is taking his time. Then just as you are about to give up he lifts you up, puts you In a better place than you asked for. Shows you he is working in ways that you wouldn't imgine? That is the point I was at and then all the answers came through. Most times we ask ask and ask besides the complaining, today I will thank thank thank and thank for what he has given me and what he is about to give me. The Lord is faithful. Even when you just think about what you want he gives you regardless of weather you ask or not he gives. I testify! Thank you lord Now time to dust up this place and get down to business.