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18.8.11

THE 'MAKE-DO' WOMAN

I read this somewhere and thought i could share. To the owner of the original post please note that i am not copying your work so no suing here




THE 'MAKE-DO' WOMAN

When I was preparing to get married, I started getting all sorts of advice especially at bridal showers and things like that from family and friends. But one of the most interesting 'lessons' came from a woman I met for the first time, just a few weeks before the big day.

She said, Honey, whatever you do, don't ever let yourself become a "make-do woman", I had no idea what she meant, but, of course, she was about to explain.
She continued, 'men' don't deny themselves anything. Whatever they want to buy, they buy. Whatever they want to do, they do. Meanwhile, there is the wife, making do with her hair not being done, gaining weight not taking care of our health, her clothes from yesteryear, her nails in need, never had a pedicure, scraping the bottom of her tube of lipstick! Oh, I could go on and on with how ' we' make do.

And why? Because the car needs fixing, this bill is behind, we have to use our time to take care of this, or take care of that; we're saving for this, working, cooking, cleaning, raising, etc. She warned me to never become a make-do woman, because she says if you start, it is hard to stop and one could easily find themselves making-do for the rest of their lives.
I vowed it would never happen to me. I didn't think much more of the conversation until one day, I began to take notice, she was right.
Men are a lot better at being good to themselves. Some call it being selfish, there has to be another word for it. Tell me if you know.

Whatever you call it. It does have its place. When they want to play ball, or golf, or fish, they go! When they want to buy clothes, or equipment, or video games, or whatever their 'thing' is, they buy! Have you ever tried to stop one? Has anyone
ever been able to stop one? Let me know! When I look around, I see a whole heap of make-do women, married or not, with or without children, they are all over the place!

I have decided that I am going to make my best effort to become a 'make-time' woman! I will make the time to do what I need
to do to be good to myself, whether that's a trip to the salon, or the gym or the mall. This time I'm going to take a lesson from the guys!

All right ladies, single and married... Let's NOT be 'MAKE-DO' Women!
Let's LOVE OURSELVES and ENCOURAGE each other! Pass it on!
It's something we could all appreciate

It is time for a change , I am not saying men shouldn't take time for themselves, I am saying we are stupid for not taking more time for ourselves !!!
Don't let yesterday take up too much of today!

16.8.11

PRAISE YOU IN THE STORM!!!!!!!!!

I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.


And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away



I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth

5.8.11

I NEED YOU NOW

Just like HK i have this song playing in my head like a problem Lady antebellum Rocks

Picture perfect memories
Scattered all around the floor
Reaching for the phone 'cause
I can't fight it anymore

And I wonder if I
Ever cross your mind
For me it happens all the time

It's a quarter after one
I'm all alone
And I need you now
Said I wouldn't call
But I've lost all control
And I need you now

And I don't know how
I can do without
I just need you now

Another shot of whiskey
Can't stop looking at the door
Wishing you'd come sweeping
In the way you did before

And I wonder if I
Ever cross your mind
For me it happens all the time

It's a quarter after one
I'm a little drunk
And I need you now
Said I wouldn't call
But I've lost all control
And I need you now

And I don't know how
I can do without
I just need you now

Whoa, whoa
Guess I'd rather hurt
Than feel nothing at all

It's a quarter after one
I'm all alone
And I need you now
And I said I wouldn't call
But I'm a little drunk
And I need you now

And I don't know how
I can do without
I just need you now
I just need you now

Oh baby, I need you now

AND THE VIDEO OH THOSE PEOPLE ARE CUTE

3.8.11

Random day

it's funny how people are complaining about the financial crisis in Uganda and yet most of us spare some money to drink over priced coffee and very dry cake. I am not here by choice it's just that i am waiting for my mechanic to bring my DMC which he has been working on since morning. So tired of this car i am about to launch meetings for buying a new one. I would rather be home watching the fights between my kids but what to do! Anyway back to this coffee place, on a normal day (not so busy) you will find that the only seat available is that next to nusty oh i see you don't know that guy niether do i just thought i would use that! It's not bad sharing with nusty a table problem is he will ask if he can taste your americano, your cake etc disgusting. The groups of people here are rather snobby. There is this group that comprises of a lawyer, an accountant, an engineer, and the nkuba deal (deal beaters) these guys have become permanent tennants here in that the waitresses don't have to take thier orders they just know what they want. This group has specialized in suits and sharp shoes! What's with he sharp shoes anyway? If i could i would take a picture and upload it but mehn don't want to be thrown out. You must be wondering where the snobbing comes in it won't it's just that i know half of them and noone is attempting to come and say hello. Before you tell me to go say hello first listen out, i am the queen of shy so catch me doing that. The thoughts that go through my mind are like; what if you trip and fall you idiot?, they will all laugh. So i sit comfortably at my table and do the smile and wave boys smile and wave. Btw this post has no interesting event to talk about its just that i look silly sitted alone counting the cars passing. So to save myself from looking bad i decided to pull out my not so cool iphone 4 oh sorry ipad 5 to post something. Now where is this mechanic somebody save me from this place. I dont want to venture into window shopping it usually ends up into a major splurge and seeing that my hubby trusted me with his ATM card i might get tempted to steal from him. Is it possible that a wife can steal from her husband and viceverser i thought when you get married you become one, what is yours is mine so if you take from your spouse's wallet/account you are only getting part of what's yours. Okay i gotta look for this mechanic thanks for lounging with me. Thank God for phones rather pads and the internet how would i have killed these minutes.

Ps. Dont mind about spelling misakes i didnt mind making them

2.8.11

SEX AS A WEAPON!!!!!!!! DON'T THINK ABOUT IT


Yesterday I had lunch with 2 friends of mine and my sister; I will give these people pseudo names so that I don’t confuse the characters. So it was Marley, Tommy, my sister Jo and 1. We started off the lunch with talking about Marley’s upcoming wedding and the stuff that needs to be done in order for her to have her dream wedding. Marley is not the kind, who while still a child had a scrap book of her dream wedding. She is not gangster but rather the kind that prefers simplicity at all times not making a wedding an exception. Hesi and I have been through the whole talk of letting loose on the simplicity just for that one day but we have terribly failed as the dress she is insisting on is weeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllll I can’t begin to explain. Well as the conversation went on Marley turns and tells Tommy that if her hubby-to-be ever annoys her, she will deny him sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh My World you should have seen the reaction from all three of us who are btw married. This is what followed next
Tommy: Never ever use Sex as a weapon while having a fight with your spouse. Denying him sex opens another can of worms. Why am I saying this, he will thereafter go on strike and when you attempt to get some he will not be up for it and when you complain he will remind you want you did the last time and will calmly tell you it scarred him (MEN HAVE DRAMA).
Jo: Also if for example the reason why you are using sex as a weapon is because he came home late, while he is out again and then realizes it is already “Late” in your world, he will assume that there is no getting some at home so he will try to look at the possibilities of getting some before he goes home to your long pulled mouth and you don’t want that to happen.
Marley was confused she was wondering if you are mad at someone how is he supposed to know that you are mad when you are busy moaning and making passionate love. At that point Tommy told her after it is done, turn and face the wall in a fetus position and there he will think he has raped you and feel bad about the whole ordeal. That is when I came up and I asked Tommy what if he sleeps off and does not notice. He then said you forget about your anger for that day and wait for the next little mistake.
I then quickly told Marley that while a man can say no he is not in the mood, for the woman it should not come out of your mouth. This is the part where Men have more rights than us. I seriously don’t get it why should a man calmly think you are going to accept his “I am too tired” speech when they don’t want to hear it from us? We are all human and in most cases the woman will have had a more hectic day which involves 8 -5 job, picking kids from school, putting Dinner on the table, Doing home work with the kids and then there after find him waiting to break your already broken back. Marley was horrified by this. I was not speaking from experience because I have never been too tired for a calorie burning activity but I have heard people talk about it. I think it is rather selfish for the men to deny their spouses sex all in the name of being tired and yet they don’t want to hear it from us poor women.
My take on this is there are better ways to fight than to deny the other sex surely we are not kids if you want to punish him Silent treatment is the best. And to the men you need to adjust if you can be tired and so can we.

1.8.11

SERVICE PROVIDERS IN UGANDA AND THE CRAP THEY CARRY ALONG.

I was having a Chat with Pote on Saturday at a wedding (Which is part of the post) and he mentioned he will be posting everyday. I didn't make such a statement because i know i am very lazy at writing and that is probably why my project has only a title 3 months after being sent to write a proposal. Anyway here is my attempt at coming up with a post today.
I am certain that all of us here have experienced some lousy crap that service providers hired at a function give us. It's funny how people pay so much money to these guys and at the end of the day they give you bitter tomatoes. I was at a wedding on Saturday and I experienced/noticed some of these awful things. I will not mention the inconvenience at the gate all in the name of security check points, al shabab will knock munyonyo out by missiles fired from one of those islands opposite them. This security thing is really getting to me, there is no real checking done, just some smelly guy opening the door doing a peeping tom thing and then slams the door to a point that it slightly moves in towards the passenger seat. Then don’t get me started on open the boot blah blah blah the last time I did my children’s cereal went missing from the groceries I had just got. Oh the wedding as I walked up the steps that lead to the Ball room, I noticed that the area where the guests are supposed to be served from the buffet was transformed into some kind of market place. My first thought was did the couple meet at a market and now have transformed their first day into the theme of the wedding?????????? Hmmmm Interesting, but could they really have asked for this?????? I guess not. The venue had earlier been used as some kind of exhibition area and therefore munyonyo felt it necessary for the guests to perhaps get involved in this market thing before going into the hall for the paaaarrrttyyy. They didn’t confirm this I just made it up otherwise what would be the reason for having a shabby buffet area. I get into the hall find a comfy seat and wait for the other guests to fall in (this fall in thing I have never understood). A few minutes later the other guests take their seats and the waiters and waitresses start going on about their business. A waitress called Olivia was assigned to our general area to take care of our business, and she really did despite the fact that by the end of the night, she had baptized me SANDRA!!!!!!!!!!!!! No offense to any Sandras out there but…………………………………. Oh this is supposed to be about the lousy stuff service providers do, so anyway after the speeches, dinner, cake, Father and Bride dance the after party begun and as soon as it did, the decorator started collecting all her belongings ie table runners, chair tie backs, and all those “not sophisticated” things they feel the need to pack up before the function officially ends. Her defense for this action is people steal the sophisticated items, Do we? I personally have never carried anything from a wedding except for the party favors so for me that was a lousy excuse. Then we got up to dance and guess what the munyonyo crew decided to do!!!!!!!!! Yep stack up their chairs, dismantle the tables basically clearing the hall. Please note that the bride and groom were still around greeting friends and pakachining. WHO DOES THAT? Why do these people feel they have a right to close your party??????? Are they trying to tell us that they are tired we should pack up and go? They get paid so they shouldn’t be tired. I think that was the most annoying thing that evening, right about that time my Mr and I decided to leave…… Ooooh no I didn’t mention I had come with him????? I think it’s a woman thing seeing that the bride’s speech was about everyone but her husband and when she was done he turn and was like “you forgot to say anything about me”. So anyway on our way home we find a road block where police was doing breathalyzer tests on drivers….. Seeing that I am posting this tell you that I either passed it, didn’t take it or pretended that I was going to park and instead zoomed off.
Anyway on a more serious note someone needs to come up and give all the service providers a run for their coins. People pay for these services and at the end of the day it is not customer is king instead it’s Customer is slave you do what the service provider wants and even plead with him/her to play music for an extra 30minutes and yet you had paid for music the whole night………………